All Summer 2016

Wow…Summer 2016 was magical. This is because we were new. Our relationship was new, and as DeLonte courted me, I fell more and more in love with him AND the man I saw him destined to be. I remember wanting to be near him every day. I wanted to know his scent down to the t. I wanted to know what he was thinking, why he was thinking it, and what made him not want to think any more.

Yes, it sounds silly. I know. And I also know that love can feel like a drug. It can make you want to catch the first high you had when you first met that person. That’s what I always want with him. I search fro that daily and I know he does the same. Before we officially became a couple, I remember the days we would stay on the phone until 3 a.m. I remember talking about music, questioning his knowledge about artists, and us sharing both masterpieces of pain and laughter.

I had found what India Arie talked about in “I am Ready for love”. I fell in love with a man who loves music. This Brotha love him some art. I am so thankful he respects the spirit world and surely thinks with his heart. At times, I wish I had the power he possesses with words that could move mountains or even shift shadows to form light. He has a gift. And then I remember I am a reflection of him. We create.

Love.

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Marriage

My Beloved is mine, and I am his…

My Beloved is mine, and I am his…

Her

Marriage is a challenge. It is not easy at all and those who say it is, God bless them. We have been untangling all of each other’s knots that have developed over twenty plus years. Some of the knots are healthy, others aren’t. Some shouldn’t have been untied, others are still being found.

Yet, marriage is rewarding. Every day I choose to love my partner with all my heart as we not only lean on one another but lean on God. He is everything. I love him. And at the end of the day, I wouldn’t want to do life with anyone else but him. They want to see us fail. They don’t want us to be successful, but we’re gonna continue to make this last forever. Our Black love, Black marriage, and the fact that we will continue raising our Black children is a revolutionary act.

Him

How has marriage been thus far? 

In simple terms marriage is “work.” Many times we think of marriage as our dream relationship, held in the same light of a dream job. Ask some about their ideal relationship and they give you a list of esoteric qualities that usually unevenly benefit their interest. Secondly, rarely does a person detail the work to turn said dream into a reality. I had an idea of what marriage looked like for me and I’ve honestly had that reality flipped on its axis.   

Everyday you have to wake up and make a continued commitment and conscious effort to “love and honour” thine partner. Over the last few months I’ve grown fonder of the title partner. Comprise. Empathy. Understanding. Communication. Loyalty.  All those ingredients needed for a healthy partnership.

Us

I love you. I want you. I need you. I miss you.